I was pondering how one goes about praying. It's a very unusual form of communication.
When speaking to someone directly, I can observe their body language to sense if they are listening, interested in the topic, showing understanding to prompt me to continue, or ready to respond to some point that I just made.
When I talk on the phone or two-way radio, I can't take advantage of body language, but I can use vocal cues that might be verbal or simple sounds (mmmm-hmmm). This keeps the conversation flowing.
But these are typically forms of two-way communication. Both people take turns sharing their thoughts and ideas. What about other forms of communication that might be more like prayer, where the communication is one-way and perhaps omnidirectional?
Broadcast types of communication such as newspapers, magazines, television, radio, and some types of internet information all have many listeners and one speaker (at least conceptually). How does this form of communication function? For print media, there are subscriptions or other evidence that the information is being delivered. For radio and television, some might be by subscription, but others utilize Nielsen ratings to determine if the information is delivered. Even without ratings, a transmitting station can go out and test to see if their signal is being broadcast. It doesn't guarantee viewership, but at least confirms the message has been sent. Are similar tools available for prayer to verify that the message has been sent, or to know if the message has been received?
In all forms of terrestrial communication mentioned so far, there are some obvious means by which one can provide feedback. It's easy enough when speaking with someone to use body language or verbal cues. For print media, one can contact the publisher to give comments. Similar means are available for television and radio.
The means of feedback are either explicitly defined, or at least implicitly understood. We can use a phone or mail to contact printed and aired media, which are explicitly understood tools. We have been trained how to use them. When body language is used for feedback, we have implicitly learned the appropriate body language from our culture. It's understood (usually) what we mean. We don't have to be trained to use body language.
Feedback is the primary means to know that the message has been received. Whether it's implicit or explicit, the feedback is usually obvious to the one receiving it. That is its purpose. How do we hear God? How do we get feedback from prayer; is it obvious?
So what is prayer most like? It could be one-on-one like a phone call, but I'd need to be told how to dial the God's number in my mind. (No, I won't go into the possible jokes of wrong numbers, busy signals, etc.) It could be a directional broadcast, where one must aim the antenna and tune into the correct God-frequency. It could be an omnidirectional spread-spectrum broadcast, but that sounds desperate and hopeless, like SETI sending a signal to aliens that are only exist in theory.
Is prayer an always-open channel, or must we first turn on and tune the transmitter? If it's always on, then aren't we praying 24/7? If not, how do I turn on and tune in; what exactly must I do in my brain to activate communication? More to the point, how do I know if I'm successful in tuning in to God's frequency? Most two-way communication devices negotiate a connection before transmitting data, but I don't see that applying to prayer. But even for one-way communication like TV, there are methods to make sure the station is transmitting strongly and clearly on their assigned frequency. It doesn't seem possible to do this with prayer.
Perhaps prayer is desperate and hopeless, but christianity (like most religions) is a belief system that doesn't allow it's followers to question its tenets.
So now I've had my say. As usual I provided more questions than answers.
Here's what others have said on prayer and hearing God:
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Prayer pointers
Speaking with God
Yoga perspective on seeking God
A prayer narrative followed by a multitude of categorized scripture
Hearing God
How to hear God in four easy steps